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A Badge That Makes You Skinny. Honest.

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The greatest writers on time management all agree – plan weekly, adapt daily. I subscribe to that ideal and do my planning on each Friday, but don’t worry – this post isn’t about time management. (That’s my other blog at https://policetimemanagement.com )

No, this blog being about The Three Resolutions, my focus this morning is about how ‘weekly’ doesn’t cut it for so many of us. A weekly review of our commitments and plans isn’t enough if, like me, you’re not as disciplined as you’d like to be. Recommitment every Sunday morning isn’t enough for us just as much as it isn’t (really) enough for churchgoers who are all pious from 11am to midday, and then go for a beer and heavy Sunday dinner in a pub.

Nope. I’m afraid for those of us still striving to become what we have concluded is ‘our best’ once a week may not be sufficient for our needs. We need to remind ourselves on a daily basis what it is we are about, what we are for. For those of us who really struggle, we may have to recommit every time we pass a temptation – like the fridge.

Having your values/mission/plan as a handy reference is, well, handy. In fact, having it to hand can be a literal requirement. An ‘in-yer-face’ representation and reminder could be key to keeping you on your set path. It’s not absolutely reliable – it takes personal proactivity to actually comply – but having the reminder present is certainly helpful. It reminds you of the guilt you’re going to feel when you don’t act in accordance with the values you set yourself.

In my ‘other’ book, ‘The Way: Integrity on Purpose’, I promote the analysis of personal values and the creation of a personal mission statement in much greater depth than revealed in The Three Resolutions book. I also discuss iconography. (See also Dan Brown and his ‘Robert Langdon’ novels.)

What’s that got to do with the price of eggs?

I’m a bit OTT. I have my ‘mission compliance reminders’ on the screensaver of my mobile phone and in the front of my planning system, but I’ve also had badges made, badges that I wear on at least one piece of clothing (coat or hat) that remind me I’m a frequent failure. 😊 Surprisingly cheap to obtain, given they’re custom designed. (£14 for 14 2 ½ inch metal badges from Awesome Merchandise, free plug).

You see, I’m trying to create a kind of obligation to act in accordance with the motto/philosophy that these badges represent. You might think that’s a bit weird, but there you sit in your football club’s shirt, or a branded shirt that just advertises someone else’s mission. Think about that. You paid more for your shirt than I paid for my badges, and you’re reinforcing and funding someone else’s mission. Duh!

Have you explored your personal values? Have you a personal mission statement or stated, written ‘constitution’? If so, great. If not, do the exercises that create them.

Then think of a way to reinforce your integrity, and if that means designing your own logo, get to it and get compliant. Identify with and confess to the meaning behind your logo – it is your personal brand iconogrified (new word © ).

Then look at it every time you fancy another emergency pasty, and see if that makes you skinny.

(Click on the links in the article to see the books that give rise to and expand upon this wisdom.)

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Stop making excuses, you! (Meaning me.)

06 Saturday Jun 2015

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Stephen Covey, author of “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People; Restoring the Character Ethic”* was once asked how he was getting on with his own compliance with ‘his’ philosophy. His reply probably astounded the interviewer.

“I’ve made a good start.”

The interviewer probably couldn’t immediately understand that answer – Stephen had written the book, after all. Why wasn’t he compliant?

I don’t know what his answer to such a question would be, but the last couple of weeks have identified my own. Since I came back from the USA I have gained a bit more weight than I find acceptable because I am eating too much, or the wrong things. A couple of family celebrations impacted that but there’s no excuse – I’ve reverted to the old me and I have not been observant of that part of my PMS that deals with self-discipline (and self-denial).

Occasionally this is because life gets in the way, for example when there are a multitude of social events piled up together, which makes it easier to justify (rational-lies) the inability to remain disciplined. But that’s no excuse – it’s time to lose that weight and keep it off properly.

I have discovered that my ability to focus has warped over the last few years, the unfortunate influence of time off times accessibility of social media – the paradox being that social media is now a business essential!

I have just become involved in a new business venture, early days, and I do find that my ability to study has been influenced by that loss of focus – instead of dedicating hours to study I’m only managing an hour at a time. No problem, I’m getting there but I need to reprioritise and do other things at better times. (I discovered that the ability to do stuff in gaps ‘at work’ is less attractive when you are the one paying yourself. Instead of shopping when the mood takes me, I need to shop AFTER the priority stuff has been completed!)

Do you experience these things? Scattered focus instead of meaningful concentration? The influence of ‘life’ over the ‘life plan’? If so – welcome to LIFE!

That is possibly what Dr Covey experienced when he said he’d made a good start. Life got in the way, and occasionally it was right to let it do so.

But not all the time.

Anyway, as a permanent reminder I now have the Three Resolutions as my mobile telephone cover:

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Every time I pick it up I get the Resolutions, then the “First Resolution” part of my PMS on the screen. I have no excuse. Even when life calls me on the phone my PMS will be in my face.

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If you have a reasonable sized PMS you can get a mobile telephone cover and have the PMS added. It’s a conversation point!

*The Character Ethic is the reason I detest ‘celeb’ TV. If only more of them had Character as well as personalities……

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