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Tidy up, before you kill someone.

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Posted by threeresolutionsguy in Discipline

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decluttering, discipline, kez bellamy, Oprah, peter walsh

I don’t know many successful people – and by that I mean people I respect and who deserve their success – who surround themselves with clutter. It might be an amusing comedic meme for a character in a film or programme to be successful and yet live in a pile of clothes and dirty dishes, but I can’t say I’ve ever seen that in reality.

The successes I respect tend to exists in an organised environment, indeed often minimalistic. One place for recording everything that requires a decision, immediate referential filing for items once read and digested, immediate planning for an action resulting from input, in the appropriate place and for rediscovery at the appointed time.  A clean, tidy, organised and clutter-free workspace, usually paralleled by an equally open personal space.

I wish I had that.

Unfortunately, like most people I live with others. Others who have not delved as deeply into the benefits of self- and space-organisation as I. Those whose idea of being organised means having just the one pile – in each room – of ‘whatever it is they might ever need’. But it’s in the one place so they’ll find it if they have to.

#except they don’t, because they forget which pile/room they left it in.

And at the risk of talking out of turn, the people who live like that tend to be indisciplined, overweight, unfit and flighty. Everything last minute, and everything an inconvenience. That may not be abundantly clear with young people whose metabolism is yet to disappoint, but after 40 all that indiscipline suddenly manifests itself around your waistline.

Which raises the question – which came first, the disorganisation or the indiscipline? It’s a good one.

But there is a chap called Peter Walsh who opines that fat people are fat because they hoard stuff. Caveat – he’s not saying that is the primary or only reason but hear ‘him’ out through me. He does suggest that when we hoard, we create an environment that owns us, rather than an environment that we own. As the less disciplined see their environment take charge of their lives, they surrender to it. When it finally takes command, their preferred coping mechanism is – you guessed it, comfort eating.

It’s hardly scientific, but he has demonstrated on Oprah how finally regaining control of the environment they lost, resulted in losing the weight they had gained. (I am particularly proud of that sentence. 😊 )

I am engaged in clutter clearance now. And it is fun watching how quickly I decide to dump something, while others’ stuff awaits assessment – for days. And how the moment I clear four square feet of space, one of my children needs something stored ‘just for a bit’ and it gets filled again.

Keeping an ordered environment takes discipline, but there are peripheral effects on your physical and mental health – and that of the people around you who, like me, wish to heaven that you’d get your ‘arris in gear and throw some cr4p out.

Rant over.

Exercise the First Resolution on your personal and professional environments. I guarantee you’ll feel better, unless you live with a hoarder. Then it’s a case of controlling any homicidal tendencies you may have.

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Cogor – mihi.*

21 Sunday Jun 2015

Posted by threeresolutionsguy in Character and Competence

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Anthony Robbins, journal writing, Oprah, Rohn, self-awareness, Socrates

“Keeping a journal is a high leverage Quadrant II activity that significantly raises self-awareness and enhances all the endowments and the synergy among them.” Stephen R Covey

I’ll confess that my own journal efforts have been stop and go over the years, partly because my struggles to fully comply with my values, beliefs and goals was beginning to make depressing reading, and partly because my paper planning system means that my ‘daily record of events’ outlines sufficient historical data for me to remember what I was doing and thinking when I made the entries. The other challenge is that in these days of digital memory making, the physical act of writing is surprisingly tiresome.

But that shouldn’t put anyone off writing their own history. (‘If a life’s worth living, it’s worth recording’, said Oprah Winfrey, repeating the words of Tony Robbins, who was quoting Jim Rohn, who was rephrasing Socrates ‘The unexamined life is not worth living’.)

Writing about what you think and feel, why you think and feel it, what caused those feelings and thoughts – and perhaps just as if not more importantly, what you’re going to do about it – can be immensely cathartic and ultimately developmental.

When you consider that what we do in the moment between stimulus and response, when we use our self-awareness, imagination, independent will and conscience to choose our response, then knowing from our self-analysis what is the right thing for us in respect of our values and integrity is important. And writing that personal journal serves us and enables, even empowers us to make better decisions. And the peace from making a ‘right’ decision, even when it may not immediately serve us, is incredible.

Another challenge with journal writing comes to mind – and that is, when you commit these thoughts and intentions to paper you create an obligation to yourself to act in congruence with those new decisions in the future. That, my friends, is how personal change comes about.

And it can be very, very challenging!

Which makes a blooming good reason to get started.

Grab a book, software programme or tape recorder – sorry, digital recorder – and start recording your life with the intention of making it even better.

Now – go on, Amazon awaits……

* Means I am obliged, to me.

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