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We ALL Suffer from Velleity.

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Velleity. Ooh. New word. One for Scrabble, minimum 14 points. But also important when defining your goals. Particularly at New Year……

What does it mean? According to Edwin C. Bliss, author of Getting Things Done (that isn’t the David Allen version) and Doing It Now!, it means “wanting something, but not wanting it bad enough to pay the price for it.” Yes, losing weight comes a rampant first place in the list of velleitous goals. (Oh look, I made up a  new word. Yay, me.)

I’m gambling that you, dear reader, like me, have a bucket load (list) of such goals. They’re ‘Like to Dos’ rather than ‘Will do at any costs’. They’re the ones that start with good intentions and usually remain there. Or they do mean something, but every time you consider committing to them – usually when action is actually called for – then you vacillate, meditate, procrastinate, and then change-the-date.

For example, I have a desire to drive the Nurburgring, but when the offer came up recently I put it off until next year. On the one hand, I could drive my car around it gently, but the enthusiast in me would inevitably try hard and risk having to walk the 450 miles back home, red-faced.

The answer? There is one, but even it can be looked at with velleity. The famed climber William H. Murray, leader of the Scottish Himalayan Expedition* in the early 1950s, once wrote an oft-quoted ‘personal development’ paragraph that read,

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:

Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.

Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!”

Velleity in a well-crafted nutshell.

To do something you ‘kinda’ want to do but keep putting off, you have to invest something of yourself, or your cash. One of the least mentioned elements of Murray’s quote is that the ‘commitment’ to which he referred was – wait for it – paying for the boat tickets to Bombay. But as simple and uninspiring as that may seem as a ‘commitment’, popping some cash down when you are financially challenged is a good way to reinforce commitment – once you’ve coughed up cash you struggled to obtain, it’s mentally stressful NOT to come through on your goal.

Another way to overcome velleity is to make non-performance more painful than performance. A famous example is a Jewish gentleman in the USA who publicly swore that if he didn’t come through on a commitment he made, he would donate a four-figure financial sum to the Ku Klux Klan. He came through.

What can you do to, today, to overcome your wanna-do reluctance?

*Still can’t find the Scottish Himalayas on the map.….

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Do It NOW!!

14 Monday Sep 2015

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Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative (and Creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: That the moment that one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material substance which no one could have dreamt would have come your way.

I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”

W H Murray

You may have noticed the additional page on this website relating to my new business project (I have many and that is but one), specifically this one. I have just come away from a magnificent three day training and marketing conference and the above quote now means more to me than it did when I first heard it. It is a core personal development quote but for some reason (and I hope it is permanent) it made more sense this past weekend. As advised by my latest coach and mentor I am going to learn it by heart – and keep it there.

Then I have to go forward and apply it to every single deed I commit.

Does this conflict in any way with my PMS, my adherence to and reverence for the Seven Habits and the Three Resolutions? Of course not! The foundational tenet of those particular philosophies – indeed all principle-based personal development courses/books/trainings/websites – is that because they are principle-based, they are UNIVERSAL. Therefore they apply everywhere – the words and the brands don’t matter as much as what they are trying to communicate.

Incidentally, my advice has hitherto been that those new to PD should seek advice and (unless, like me, they intend to be teachers in that field) select one philosophical ‘school’ to follow, because while none conflict in intent and desire, their respective methodologies can be diverse and one can easily fond oneself trying to ‘comply’ with an informational, philosophical and methodological overload.

My advice – follow The Seven Habits and Three Resolutions.

But whatever you do, do what Murray said – COMMIT!

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